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February 09, 2023

How can a single mother celebrate valentine's day

I know you can't help not to think of next week and it doesn't have to be a complete doozy not having a partner. It's a lot you can do as a single mom, so don't let your situation take root over you with negative thoughts that you're not worthy. Because you are. You're a mom and a great one at that and that's your superpower. 

 


 This week I wanted to share ways you can celebrate love as a single mother depending on your interests and circumstances. Below are some quick ideas:


  1. Have a "girls' night in" with your children and close friends, complete with a homemade dinner, a movie, and fun games or activities. If you have someone who can care for your little one then just make it a Galentine's Day celebration. 

     

  2. Planning a special outing with your children, such as going to the aquarium or zoo.

     

  3. Treat yourself to a spa day or buy yourself a small gift, such as a book or piece of jewelry.

     

  4. Spending time with friends and/or family by planning a day out or a dinner.

     

  5. Organizing a special date with her children, such as a picnic in the park or an outing to a museum.

     

  6. Volunteering with a local organization to give back to your community. 

Ultimately, the most important thing for you is to enjoy the company of those you loves and to do something that makes you feel good. Always know you're never alone. God is love and he created you in his image. Remember that and show love to others.

From sister to sister

Queen to queen

Mother to mother 

You Got this!

January 31, 2023

Activities List for Sick Toddler at Home

 Hey Sis!


For the last 2 weeks of January, my son and I have been cooped up in the house due to him being sick. What started off as pink-eye ending up being something I have never heard of. Trying to work from home and care for a sick child is a supernatural task, I know God had to step in for me because my my my. I thank God for his guidance and definitely his strength because Whew, it's been something kind of 2 weeks.


In life, I've learned to roll with and keep pushing (but make sure you are resting too). Caring for a sick toddler can be a challenge, but with the right activities, you can make it a little easier for both you and your little one. When a toddler is feeling under the weather, it's important to keep them entertained and distracted from their illness. With that in mind, I’ve compiled a list of fun and soothing activities that are perfect for a sick toddler. From reading and art to sensory play and baking, these activities will help your child feel better while they're on the road to recovery. So grab a cozy blanket, grab your little one, and let's get started!

 


 

  1. Reading books and telling stories
  2. Playing with play dough or modeling clay
  3. Doing a puzzle or working on a coloring book. My favorite are $1 Tree coloring books
  4. Building with blocks or Lego's
  5. Playing dress-up or pretending with dolls or stuffed animals
  6. Watching a favorite movie or TV show
  7. Playing with cars or action figures
  8. Doing a simple science experiment or craft project
  9. Playing a board game or card game
  10. Having a dance party or sing-along. Be sensitive to your child sickness to make sure this activities does not upset your toddler's tummy.
  11. Doing a scavenger hunt around the house
  12. Drawing or painting
  13. Playing with water and measuring cups in the bathtub
  14. Cooking or baking together
  15. Having a indoor obstacle course or treasure hunt
  16. Building a fort or teepee with blankets and pillows.

I want to add that during each activity, I make sure I am using newspapers, a large post it sheets, or get inexpensive table cloth at the dollar store so all you have to do is pick up items and dispose of them in the trash. 

 

Taking care of a sick toddler doesn't have to be all about medicine and rest. By incorporating some fun and engaging activities into their day, you can help your child feel better, both physically and emotionally. Remember to keep it simple, and focus on what your child enjoys. Whether it's reading a book, playing a game, or baking cookies, these activities will provide a much-needed distraction from their sickness and give you both a chance to bond. Above all, be patient, offer lots of love and cuddles, and remember that the most important thing is for your little one to get better.


If you need a more structured schedule with everything you need to succeed with a sick toddler at home, grab a copy of my Schedule Guide for Sick Toddlers below.







 

 

January 21, 2023

How To Get Your Toddler To Sleep In Their Own Bed and Room

Hi Queen!


Happy Saturday. I don't know about you but over the years, I felt like a lot of women unintentionally tried to project their issues onto me by telling me that my son would be 12 years old, still sleeping in my bed. I always looked with a side eye, like excuse me “Unh Unh get somebody else to do it” because that never sat well with me. I don't know about you sis but ain't nobody got time to be fighting these kids and the way they sleep. My son sleeps like he's working the field and I don't miss the nights when my back was on fire because of the many kicks I received in the middle of the night.


Let me tell you exactly what I did sis to help you begin to get a betters night sleep. I went straight to prayer and first asked God to help me with this situation sis because he knows me, and he knows my son. We are not the same! I said, father, you're gone, have to help me because I'll be darned if my son is a teenager and still sleeps in the bed with me. And guess what?!?! God did it!!! 

 

With much practice and consistency on my part. The baby boy sleeps faithfully in his room. He sometimes gets it twisted but I guide his butt right back to his room every time. Remember this is a transition and transitions take time. So give yourself and your toddler grace as you transition to this new season of another transition with your toddler.

 

Want to know exactly how to get this done? Let the operation eviction begin.

 



1. Start by making the transition gradual:


I started by putting my son's bed in my room so he could at least get comfortable sleeping in his bed. As soon as he turned 4, I had to put my foot down and move his bed back into his room so the transition could continue. If that doesn't work for you, begin by having your toddler nap in their bed during the day, and gradually move to have them sleep there at night.


2. Create a consistent bedtime routine:


This can be reading a story or having a dance party right before bed. My toddler is super smart so he knows when we do this, it's bedtime and he tries it but he is typically out no more than 30 minutes later.


3. Make sure their room is comfortable:


That's with a comfy mattress, adequate temperature, minimal noise, and warm lights. To make it extra special by adding their favorite character to their bed and room. My son is a spider man person, so spider-man is everywhere and that's ok. As long as he's out of my bed. I am fine with that.


4. Add thunder or rain sounds to their sleep:

 

My son has been sleeping with Thunder and rain sounds since he came out of the womb. So this becomes second nature to his routine at night and always puts him out. This typically helps draw out any outside noises that may come about because they are already on edge for sleeping alone, so hearing something outside could scare them and prompt them to come to your room


5. Give your toddler a sense of security:


This can be by leaving a nightlight on or providing a special blanket or stuffed animal. Also, adding neon warm lights (like the gamers have) was a game changer for me as well.


6. Be consistent and patient:

 

It may take some time for your toddler to adjust to sleeping in their bed and room, but sticking to a consistent routine will help.


7. Try putting the TV on as they sleep:

 

I didn't know but my son is a TV-sleeping toddler. It reminds me of my dad. When we were little and even now to this day. He sleeps with the tv on and the moment you turn it off, he will jump right out of bed. This must be a man’s thing because I know a lot of men that sleep this way but hey it works.


I hope these tips were helpful and please know I am praying for this transaction in your life that God will give strength to get past this difficult transition. I pray over your children that God will give them peace past their understanding. That they may rest well in their rooms and own bed. In Jesus' name, Shalom.

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