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September 08, 2020

Night Terrors | Toddlers


3 Ways to Help your Baby Get Through Night Terrors 

Hey guys so last month, my baby was experiencing night terrors, which equates to no sleep for us both. It's been a very interesting experience for me because I've been sleep deprived and scared but trusting God to get me through the day. 

I remember when this first started, my son was about 3 months old and it scared the heck out of me. I thought he fell or someone was in the apartment. I prayed over my baby when it happened and I thought we were done with this situation. But in August this terror became a terror in my home. 


What is a night terror? A night terror is when your baby wakes up screaming and scared but still sleeping. It's equal to a person who is sleepwalking. 


When this consistently happened for 3 nights in a row some concerns begin to arise in me like is something wrong with my child, is his spirit disturb, or is he having a nightmare?


I couldn't find an answer so I just went to the Lord because I refused to get suggestions from google who would have you thinking you have cancer from a cough. He gave me such peace and these 3 steps to take care of this terror. We haven't experienced any since.


1. Bring your baby to God

This is so important. As parents, we have to realize our kids are not ours, they're Gods. You must begin to pray over your child especially in trying times as such.

Including specific prayers for my child has helped me in ways I could never imagine because when you bring your children to God, you are trusting God to help you in situations you have no control over.


2. Create Structure for your Kids

This means having them on a schedule with included naps, which is super important. Taking daily naps for kids is crucial to night terrors. So if they are on a schedule this helps their sleep patterns sink in.

If you need an idea of how to create structure, grab the daily routine sheet I created for my baby here.


3. Be their comfort

Another important step. When this recently started back up. I woke up scared poop-less asking my baby “What's the Matter” in a loud voice which is big no-no with night terrors. Saying things such as Its ok, I am here, and you are safe are some words of comfort your baby needs to hear.

 

Bonus 

4. Cry if you need too 

Trust this is a hard process but we are built for hard. The last time this happened I was sleep-deprived, tired, and drained because we were up for 2 hours and I just went to sleep and had to get right back up in 3 more hours. I was completely depleted. 

I also wanted to share with you a few things “not to do”.


  • Depending on your child, do not touch your baby unless they reach for you. 
  • Do not talk in a loud tone.
  • Do not turn the light on (this makes things worse).


These are some things that helped us get through the night. I hope you're encouraged.


Tags: Baby night terrors, night terrors, my baby has night terrors, Night terrors 1 year old.

August 31, 2020

How to Gain Peace in Trying Times?


In these trying times, peace is something we all can use. With Chadwick Boseman passing and the countless police brutality in the black community, we are tired. I’m like Jeez 2020 is not letting up but I think God for his peace to get me through the day, weeks, and months. I have learned that if I still have a breath, I still have a purpose.

During my quiet time with God, I learned 5 things about peace:


1. We should take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5)


What does that mean? One thing I know the enemy is good at is placing thoughts in the mind. He's good at suggestions. The same way he suggested to Eve to eat the fruit from the tree of life. Is the same way he suggest to us.Think about that. So it's best if we bring our thoughts to God and allow Him to guide us.


2. Peace is the antidote for anxiety



3. If it doesn't bring you peace, let it go 

I’ve been through a lifetime of issues to know when my peace is being disrupted. I've learned sometimes you can't even bring certain things to people because their mental capacity can’t retain the perspective you're coming from. So give it to God and watch Him vindicate on your behalf, instead of you using your energy over things you can't control.


4. Peace is not given, it's who God is


The Lord is the prince of peace, it's to him we find it. (Isaiah 9:6)


5. Grace gives us peace


When I’m struggling with something, I always like to remind myself what God has done for me and that he can do the same for others whether I like the outcome or not. It's in his hands.


So take this week for you, take care of you, protect your peace and spend more time with the Lord with your prayers, your worries, and issues. He will give you all the peace you need. I hope you're encourage.



July 26, 2020

How Everything Happens for a Reason


In life, we may struggle with so much wondering why we are experiencing certain situations. I believe it's because of 3 things:

1. God is either trying to show us the lesson in a situation
2. God is trying to show us something about us or,
3. God is trying to guide us through a situation.

Just know things didn't happen just because and that there is a beauty from ashes from any situation. Recently, I had a mini battle with my current life situation because I was reminded of the turmoil I'm facing. God showed me the ugly truth behind it all. Listen in on how I pushed through. I hope you're encouraged. 


Song: Pat Barrett- Canvas and Clay

Scriptures:
Ecclesiates 3:1
Romans 8:28-10
Genesis 50:20

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