How to Take Care of Yourself as a Single Mother

As a believer, it is important for you as a single mom to take care of yourself. You should strive to be spiritually, physically, and mentally healthy in order to be the woman God has called you to be.

Taking care of yourself is not selfish as a single mom. It is essential for you to be the best mother you can be. Also, Jesus teaches in Matthew 22: 39 that we shall love our neighbor as yourself. For me, how can I love others if I’m not taking care of self spiritually, physically, and mentally.


There are several ways a single mother can take care of themselves, including:

  1. Prioritizing self-care: 

This can include taking time for activities that bring joy and relaxation, such as time with God, exercise, therapy, reading, or hobbies.

  1. Setting boundaries: 

It's important for single mothers to set boundaries with their children, family, business, ministry, and others in their lives, in order to make time for yourself and your own needs.

  1. Getting financial assistance: 

Single mothers may be eligible for government assistance programs, such as food stamps and cash assistance, to help with expenses. If you have a United Way in your city, please call 211 from your phone to see what services may be available to you.

  1. Seeking counseling or therapy: 

Single mothers may benefit from counseling or therapy to help them cope with the stress of being a single parent and to work through any emotional issues.

Therapy Tip:

Check with your job benefits to see if you have therapy available as a benefit with your company. Search google for local programs that support therapy fees. Lastly, check with your local church to see if they offer counseling.

  1. Building a support system: 

Single mothers can seek out support from friends, family, or a community of other single mothers. To become a member of the You Got This Club, a community for single moms to thrive not survive. Sign up to be added to the wait-list when the membership is available below. 





Avoiding Toxic Relationships as a Believer: What Measures Can You Take?

As a believer, there is so much to protect, steward, pray over. But one thing I've learned over time and one of the top things that affects us the most are relationships. This is an area I have decided to leave in God's hand personally. I figured it's obvious it's not my strong suit and he made us all. So He got it, so I've decided to follow His lead in this area. 



Toxic relationships are one of those things that the world laughs about or think is cute but it's one of the most dangerous things someone can get involved with. So I've decided to help out to discuss ways you can avoid toxic relationships by following these steps: 

Trust the leading of the Holy Spirit: 

If you discern that a relationship is unhealthy or toxic, it is probably best to stay away from it. It can become really toxic when you begin to think toxicity is cute. It's not! It's real and it could hurt you emotionally in the long run. 

Set healthy boundaries: 

Clearly communicate your boundaries when meeting others upfront and state your expectations to those you are in relationships with, and enforce them if necessary. If they can't respect that, remember your fear is in God not others. Walk away swiftly if you don't feel they respect your boundaries. 

Seek God’s guidance and wise counsel from trusted friends and mentors: 

Sometimes, it can be helpful to get advice from others who have experienced similar situations. This has saved me in many situations. 

Pray for guidance:

Ask for God's wisdom and direction in making decisions about your relationships. He's the best, why? Because again, he created us. 

Prioritize your relationship with God: 

By putting your relationship with God first, you will be better equipped to make decisions that honor Him and avoid toxic relationships. 

Focus on self-care: 

Taking care of yourself emotionally, physically, and spiritually can help you avoid toxic relationships and attract healthier ones. It's something about peace when you come from a childhood of trauma and did the work of healing your past. 

Let me tell you, the enemy hears your prayers and your cries so don't become desperate in this area allowing the worlds time clock to affect the path of God. Remember, it's okay to end a relationship if it's not healthy or toxic. Trust God to bring you the right people at the right time. He has a plan for your life but when you step in to rearrange the plan, you do yourself a disservice by getting involved with people who carry so much darkness before you know it, you're in a 10 year, too long relationship wondering who is the person you’re with. Guard your heart, pray and fast before you get involved with folks, and follow the prompting of the holy spirit. 

I hope this was helpful.


Prayer and Scriptures for Sexual Urges

Let's face it! This is a conversation that should properly be discussed in the church but to be honest a lot of individuals in ministry are still uncomfortable or still living a double lifestyle that causes them to not mention. Sex is a topic that some don't like to discuss but is much needed due to the real struggles people have. I am here to tell you if you are struggling in this area, there is hope. 


You're looking at someone who struggled for years in this area until I had enough and wanted more of God. Fornication, masturbation, and porn took up most of my upbringing because, to be honest, I had deeper issues. I didn't feel loved, I always felt alone, and I grew up in a very traumatic upbringing that I use it as an escape instead of leaning on God. Let me be clear, I was never a whore Munger as the church folks would say but if I was in a relationship with someone I did live a life of fornication as I became an adult and with myself that caused me alot of health issues.


Perversion was planted in me at a young age that eventually grow into an addiction but I am here to tell you I am free and so can you. How did I do so? Watch the video here on some steps but in the video, i discussed a prayer I wrote to help me when the urges came about. please keep in mind to "Trust in the Lord with ALL thy heart, and lean not into your own understanding." Proverbs 3:5. 


 God is a restorer and if he can do it for me, he can do it for you.

I also want to mention the topic of masturbation and porn. Nowhere in the bible will you find these words, I have looked but please go and look for yourself. "God’s plan for sex requires a relationship, namely, that of a husband and wife. Masturbation is sex disconnected from a relationship. Foundational to God’s plan for sex is giving one’s body to another. Masturbation is the keeping of one’s body to oneself. Do your research and whatever conviction you get, sis/bro just repent and allow God to free you. Need a great article to do some research, read HERE.

So if you are a Christian and practice the act of both please know it's no judgment but it's not a principle of God. If you are a leader, an influencer, or a thought leader, I don't want you to take this lightly because if you have a community, you'll bleed on them unconsciously and God will hold you accountable on judgment day. You've been warned in love. 

All I want for you after reading this is to be free in Christ so you can live to your highest potential. with further a due, below is scripture to read if youre dealing with urges and a prayer to help you overcome. Stay encourage. if you need prayer, please utilize our form on the ministry page at https://www.thegodfidentwoman.org/prayer-request 


Scriptures/Prayer Against Sexual Urges 

Read Romans 2:1-2

A Living Sacrifice
12 Therefore, I urge you,(A) brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice,(B) holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform(C) to the pattern of this world,(D) but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.(E) Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is(F)—his good, pleasing(G) and perfect will.

James 1:12
 Blessed is the man that endures temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord has promised to them that love him.


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