How to Not Get Overwhelmed by the New Year

 

Happy New Year sis!

Last week I logged into social media and I immediately got overwhelmed by the number of people telling me how to run my year. That instantly disturbed me. On Thursday, I was instructed by the Holy Spirit to speak about How to not get overwhelmed by the new year to help you. You can watch it here.

With this ever-changing system, social media can be a lot. Sis, do not get overwhelmed about how someone else is moving. It's their journey. It's nothing wrong with taking notes but do just that and test the spirit of everyone you encounter. 1 John 4:1 states to, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.

You have no idea what people are dabbling in and who their true source is. Anything that is rooted back to a person is out of selfishness and is a lie from the pit of hell. If they are not leading you to God, test it. What are the fruit they are producing.

Remember most people who are all excited about the new year, fold in mid-February. So take these steps and remember God got you, that you have no worries. 

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-8

So why not take this time and build whatever strategy God has for you for your new year. 

Top 3 Steps to Overcome

 

1. Start with God. 

 

Matthew 6:33 talks about seeking first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. 

For me, when I anchor myself with God, his peace always surpasses the noise the world is projecting. I noticed in my live I didn't give you the tools to know how to seek him. What does that look like? Seeking God starts with practice. It's a practice that I started in October and has been a blessing to my life. It alleviates error, wrongdoing, and His timing. If you are looking for a great resource. Check out the practice of the presence of God here.

All you have to do is take a moment to calm your spirit and set with God. God showed me that a lot of times it's not about receiving insight or instructions. Seeking Him and setting in His presence can sometimes be about calming your spirit back to Christ, where the words says our eyes should be. This leads me to the second note.

 

2. Take a social media break

 

If your mind gets cloudy and overwhelmed quickly, take a social media break for a few days. And don't just get off to say you got off, gear back to the #1 and seek God on how to utilize these platforms. When you come back, clean up your social media. Go through your friend list, and ask God who needs to be removed and do a thorough cleaning. 

If you feel you will miss something from another person's life, that is rooted in something much deeper and I would ask that you check your spirit as to why it's important for you to keep with another person's life. A lot of these stars you follow have a lot of problems and bring them to the media which is transferring straight to you. Yep, I said it. Don't praise others because remember why you are here in the first place. Go back to the promises God has instilled in you and focus on the purpose God has for your life. Don't do what everybody is telling you to do. 

Ask God:

• What is He speaking to you about? 
• What are some goals that He want you to focus on in your life?

This world is getting worse and we have to protect our minds and eye from the enemy because he is planting seeds in your mind. Remember he is here for only three things and that's to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. John 10:10.

3. Take it Easy. 

 

I cannot stretch this enough. One thing God spoke to me about is that it is OK to give yourself grace and relax. I think as a believer because it can feel like you are behind on the knowledge. It's like you're in a race to catch up. For me, waking up from a 20 year dead space can make you feel behind but oh no honey, God will restore everything back to you as stated in Joel 2:25.

And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.

All we have to do is follow his lead, not our own.

In your journey, I pray a spirit of execution over you that you become not just a hearer of the word but a doer. I speak a doer spirit over you that you will allow God to order your steps into this new year. 

I hope this blog has blessed you, happy new year to you and I want to invite you to my first Live MasterClass How to Redefine your Image in God on February 12th at 10:30 am. 

 

Join me live for a moment of redefining who God says you are, on understanding your image, confidence to keep pushing on the things God has instilled in you.

 

Register here.

My Divorce Testimonial Part 2 | How to Move On

 

Hi guys,

Here is the coutinousion of my divorce story.

This video is for you if you are:

• Currently going through a divorce
• Looking for hope in the midst of divorce
• Wondering what to do during the process of a divorce.

 Book updates: https://marvelous-composer-1043.ck.page/6cb6431105

My Separation video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zYhVkJZffnE&t=998s 

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Scripture reference: 

Isaiah 40:31 ESV But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. 

Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. 

Galatians 5:14 ESV For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 

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My Divorce Story Part 1 |How God Turn Beauty from Ashes

 

Let me first say that I am not a fan of Divorce but when you rush the promise God has for you, you settle for a counterfeit. Don't rush God's timing.

The things I went through, I don't wish on anyone. Please be careful who you open yourself to because the enemy is here to steal, kill, and destroy (Read John 10:10). And to be honest I almost let him kill me. I got married to a person who I thought was my forever, I'm a fighter so I thought I needed to fight for my marriage but when you're the only one fighting, you'll never see the glory of restoration in it.

“It's OK to fight for someone who loves you but it's never OK to fight for someone to love you.” 

 

Big difference. I'm grateful for the journey and don't regret anything because I had to meet him, marry him, learn a lot of lessons, have my baby, and I had to get to this point of awakening with Christ. Painful but necessary. So I'm grateful for the journey and I thank God for seeing me through.

I’m FREE...Free from bondage, strongholds, and manipulation. Let me add that marriage can be heaven or hell on earth but its how your flourish it. It also can be a beautiful thing when both parties put the work every day, every moment to stand in harmony.

Remember: All things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28).

For me, my previous marriage was a lesson for me that had to take place but my future hubby will be a blessing from God (speaking into existence).

Subscribe to the tribe here to get more information on my book announcement coming soon. 

 

See the video below for my Divorce Story| How God Turned beauty from Ashes.

 

 

5 Top Ways to Face Adversity

Top 5 Ways to Face Adversity

 

Hey Sis,

This past week was a doozy for me and if you don’t know, I am in the mist of a divorce and dealing with your past spouse and lawyers can be a lot. My advice “ Allow God to choose your spouse, not you”. 🥴 If I can be authentic with you, ya girl broke down about 3 times in the last week. But guess what I learned‼️ Breaking down is good because God is close to the brokenhearted. Psalm 34:18

If you know me, you know I don’t like to be down for too long. I like to go through my process, get my lesson and dip! So I jumped out my funk real quick, prayed, apologized to people, and have been keeping my spirit man high.

As you guys know, life always happens but we have to learn how to respond to our issues a little different. So I wanted to help someone who may be going through issues in this current season.

This is something you may want to pin 📌 in your notes for future reference.

1. Breath.  

Seriously take a moment and breath. Breathing (sometimes called diaphragmatic breathing) is a practice that enables more air to flow into your body and can help calm your nerves, reducing stress and anxiety. It can also help you improve your attention span and lower pain levels.

2. Alert 🚨 God on the situation. 

You may say but God knows/ sees what’s going on but he gives us free will to seek him first and involve him in our every day life. We just don’t let our true father know and as women we like to control the outcome instead of lay it at his feet. Learn to give it to him and as pastor T.D. Jake's said this past Sunday at Lakewood,  Go to God with a idk spirit and humble yourself to receive his instructions https://youtu.be/z8myjTKf6qA

3. Listen to his instructions.  

Sit in silence and listen. This is hard but with practice it can be done. Period 🙏🏽

 

4. Wait & Be Still.  

During this separation heading to divorce, being still has been one of the hardest things I had to do and to this day I am still learning and understanding what it really means to "Be Still" and God has been revealing to me specifically how to implement these steps in my life.

 

5. Find Scriptures about your situation and go over them daily. 

This helps renew your mind daily and also a good way to remember the the word.

Sis, you have to do this every-time because one thing I have learned, is that life will happen but how you respond to it will show growth in your walk. My therapist gave me some good advice in our last session. She said to use every situation as a guinea pig experiment to better myself.

I hope this encouraged you to use the authority you have and combat them issues with the word of God.💞

Mom Edition: What Should be Included in a Emergency Kit

 

 

 

 

Hey girl! Let me tell you what happened to me last week. One day last week, My baby was home sick as I was working from home. During his nap time, our fire alarm went off causing a quick panic of running and rambling around the house.


As I was getting ready to leave the house, I realized I had nothing prepared for me and my baby in case of emergency and it bothered me to be in that position to only have my important documents in place with no other items.


Over the weekend, God put it in my heart to get a few things in place in case of an emergency for my and my baby. Below could include the following recommended items that I currently have. If you have other items in your emergency backpack, comment below and let other moms know what's in your bag.

Everything you need to have in case of emergency. 

This list is more for in the house, have the leave in a hurry scenario not a end of the world type of bag.

 

A Backpack

Extra Flashlights

Batteries

Emergency Blanket (warm)

Important documents

• Passports

• Birth certificate

• Social security for both me and baby

• Apartment insurance

• Car titles

• Bank account information 

Machete or gun( if you have a registered one)

Outfit for me

• Shirt

• pants

• socks

• sports bra

• panties 

Outfit for baby

• Shirt

• pants

• socks

• drawers 

Tampons/Pads

Small first aid kit

Charger for phone

Back up chargers

Granola bars

Wipes

Gloves

Pack of mask

Notebook and 2 pens

Pack of garbage bags

Walkie talkie

Crayons and coloring book for kid

Local map and Us map

Portable generator

Click here to get access to my Amazon list I created with a few items from the list above. 

I hope this helps you. As a mother, prepare yourself in case of an emergency.  

Let me know what you have in your bag that may not be listed above.

3 Ways to Wear a Oversized Shirt Dress

 

The Best Way to Style a Shirt Dress

Hey guys! I hope your week went well. In this post we are discussing a trend that I think any mompreneur would love, Shirt dress.

 

I don’t know about anybody else, but your girl picked up some quarantine weight and in the process of working on this body, so the summer will have to get whatever body I give it without no shame, Okurrr

 

Shirt dresses this season are cute, comfortable, and affordable and with everything that you have been through I think its time to get out the sweats and show some legs. Below are three ways you can style a shirt dress.

 

Style with some cute heels

 

 

Add a belt.

 

 

 

 

Style it with your favorite tennis shoe.

 

 

Outfit details

Dress: Ross (similar)

Shoes: JustFab

Purse: Aundi Purse

Earrings: UniqueEditions

 

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3 Things You Can Declutter Right Now

 

So you’ve been trying to figure out what are some ways to get this year started for a while now. 

You may see others online, showing how they've planned and organized their lives this new year. And it seems like everyone makes it look so easy. 

But for some reason, planning and organizing keep eluding you. Every time you get close to clearing the clutter out of your life, something happens and you end up back where you started and with even more clutter than you started with.

Not this time. 

Because this time you’re going to be armed with the same tips, tricks, and secrets you see others are doing to make their lives easier to become successful in whatever it is you are trying to achieve. 

This year I wanted to start with a clear mind, a clean slate, and a clean home. Decluttering is a great place to start when you need fresh ideas, a new start, and a clear mind. And I don't know about you but I can't think straight when my home is not in order and things are all over the place virtually and physically.

Give these simple tips a try and see if they work for you too… 

Tip 1: Declutter your email

There are many ways you can declutter your emails but these are a few that have helped me in the past 2 weeks.

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Create folders in your Inbox

• Creating a folder for emails I will return too is one of my top ways to declutter your email. I put these emails in the folder and put some time on my calendar during the week to read through them.

Never stay subscribed to an email if you know you're not going to read them.

 WARNING: Keeping emails you never open adds to the clutter and does not decrease it. We tend to keep subscriptions based on coupons, discounts, or sometimes we feel we are missing something.

NEWS FLASH: you have everything you need. 

Erasing these emails can help you eliminate unnecessary purchases, which is buying psychology, which will ultimately help your budget. This will clear your emails of so much junk, and also minimize the internet's algorithm to stop studying your shopping habits.

• Go to the top search in your email browser, put in a name of a consistent company you see in your inbox, erase all the emails if you aren't going to read them, and take the companies latest email and unsubscribe. 

Tip 2: Declutter your social media 

This is a quarterly task I complete about every 3 months. There are so many voices, so many opinions, and so many “facts” that a lot of times, social media can be really noisy. 

I don’t follow everybody that follows me. If a page doesn’t uplift me, encourage my faith, and help me with something. I will not follow them unless they are my family or friends.

If you went to high school with somebody and they didn't talk with you then and don't say too much to you now. Why are you following them? Now if you support them or their business and the relationship is mutual then that’s a different story but most of us follow a lot of unnecessary people just because.

I don’t like much noise so when my feed seems cloudy. I clean out my follower's list to minimize the busyness of social media.

 

Tip 3: Declutter your Closet

This will have to be my all-time favorite! Cleaning out my closet is so refreshing to me. I like to do these things to declutter.

Create a Toss, Sell, or Donate pile 

• Sell items I don't wear on eBay 
• Donate clothes to Goodwill or local church for outreach
• Toss items that are torn, ripped, or super old

Organize your closet using containers, labels, and color coordination 

Hire a professional to help if this task becomes daunting.

Bonus Tip: Just Breath. This may seem like a lot but this becomes fun once you implement these steps in your life. I started doing this by 15 minutes a day for each tip and saw a huge leap in my creativity because my phone, my social media, and my closet were all clutter-free.

In sum: Decluttering is fairly simple when you apply the above 3 tips. So let me leave you with one last tip… 

So get to it – you’re going to be glad you did! Let me know in the comments, which is your favorite.