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May 11, 2025

From Goddesses to Greeting Cards: The Hidden History of Mother’s Day

 



By Zak L. Grace | AuthenticallyZ


Let’s talk about Mother’s Day. On the surface, it feels like a sweet, harmless day to honor the women who raised us—but when you peel back the layers, there’s more to the story. This post isn’t to shame anyone or make you feel guilty. It’s to uncover the truth and give you the knowledge to decide for yourself what aligns with your spirit and what doesn’t.


Let’s Take It Back: The Ancient Roots of Mother’s Day


Before the Hallmark cards and Sunday brunches, cultures around the world were already honoring “motherhood”—but not in the way we think. These celebrations were deeply spiritual and tied to goddess worship, fertility rituals, and seasonal festivals.

2000 BCE – Sumer (Ancient Mesopotamia)

  • Deity: Ninhursag (also called Ki or Ninmah) – the “Mother of All Living”

  • Seen as the goddess who birthed humanity. Early texts like the Enki and Ninhursag myth place her as one of the most powerful deities in Sumerian creation stories.

  • Reference: Sumerian Mythology by Samuel Noah Kramer

1500 BCE – Egypt

  • Deity: Isis – revered as the mother of Horus, a symbol of divine motherhood and resurrection.

  • Isis became one of the most worshipped figures throughout the Greco-Roman world.

1200 BCE – Canaanite Culture

  • Deity: Asherah – often referred to as the “Queen of Heaven.”

  • Yah repeatedly warned Israel about worshiping Asherah poles and groves.

  • They provoked Him to anger with their high places, and moved Him to jealousy with their graven images.– Psalm 78:58

700 BCE – Greece

  • Deity: Rhea, mother of Zeus, Poseidon, Hades

  • Honored with spring festivals celebrating her as the “mother of the gods.”

200 BCE – Rome

  • Deity: Cybele – also known as Magna Mater, “Great Mother.”

  • Worship involved processions, music, wild dancing, and sometimes self-harm by priests to show devotion.

  • Festival: Hilaria, celebrated around March 25 (spring equinox)

  • Learn not the way of the heathen…– Jeremiah 10:2

Medieval Europe (1600s) – England

  • Transitioned into “Mothering Sunday,” a day to return to your “mother church.” Later, it became a day to honor actual mothers.

Early 1900s – United States

  • Anna Jarvis, whose mother was a peace activist, led the movement to make Mother’s Day a national holiday in 1914.

  • Ironically, Jarvis later fought to stop it because of how commercialized it became.

So What’s the big deal? It’s not about mothers being honored—it’s about where the tradition came from and what spirit is behind it.


Yah (God) is clear that we are to be set apart.


  • Take heed to yourself, that you be not snared by following them… and that you do not inquire after their gods, saying, ‘How did these nations serve their gods? I will do likewise.– Deuteronomy 12:30

  • Thou shalt have no other gods before me.”– Exodus 20:3

  • I am YHWH: that is my name: and my glory will I not give to another, neither my praise to graven images.”– Isaiah 42:8

When we participate in rituals—even unknowingly—that were designed to honor other deities, we risk inviting in spiritual confusion. This doesn’t mean you can’t love your mom or be honored as one. But we need to ask:


  • Where did this tradition come from?

  • Who started it—and why?

  • What spirit am I coming into agreement with when I participate?


Books You Can Study to Go Deeper


  1. "The Two Babylons" by Alexander Hislop – breaks down how many modern traditions are rooted in ancient paganism. This book here!!!!

  2. "Pagan Christianity?" by Frank Viola & George Barna – challenges traditions that have crept into churches.

  3. "Sumerian Mythology" by Samuel Noah Kramer – foundational study of the earliest goddess systems.

  4. The Bible (KJV) – read with spiritual discernment and an open mind; it's all there if you look closely.


This isn’t about being “deep” for the sake of it—it’s about returning to the truth. If we say we serve Yah, we can’t keep mixing what’s holy with what’s common.

 

We can still love our mothers. We can still show honor and gratitude. But let’s do it every day, not just on a date stamped by man, rooted in goddess worship. Let’s create our own days to uplift one another, led by the Ruach (Holy Spirit) and not tradition.


  • And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.– John 8:32

March 12, 2025

12 Must-Visit Places to Take Your Kids In Houston



Hey Mamas!

I know this season is hectic, but I hope you're taking some time to breathe and care for yourself. Finding fun places to take your kids in Houston can feel like a challenge, but it doesn’t have to be! Whether you're looking for adventure, education, or just a way to keep them busy (because let’s be real, they have energy for days), this list has something for everyone. With spring break right around the corner, let’s dive into the best spots for making unforgettable family memories in Houston!

 

1. Parks, Gardens, and Playgrounds: A Classic Adventure

Houston has some amazing parks that are perfect for running, playing, and just letting kids be kids.

  • Hermann Park: A massive 445-acre urban park with playgrounds, trails, and even a train ride! I personally love going here solo, but it’s also great with kids.
  • Discovery Green: A vibrant 12-acre park in downtown Houston with playgrounds, splash pads, and wide-open spaces. Parking can be tricky, so I recommend going early!
  • Houston Botanic Garden: A peaceful, educational spot where kids can explore different plants and themed gardens.
  • McGovern Centennial Gardens: Nestled in Hermann Park, this beautifully landscaped space is great for kids to roam and explore.

Check out a full list of Houston parks here.

2. Dive into Discovery at Museums

Museums aren’t just for grown-ups—Houston has plenty of hands-on, interactive experiences for curious little minds.

  • Children’s Museum Houston: Packed with fun, hands-on activities for kids 0–12. They’ve recently upgraded a lot of spaces for even more exploring!
  • Houston Museum of African American Culture: Family-friendly exhibits showcasing African American history, art, and culture. Check it out here.
  • Houston Museum of Natural Science: From dinosaur skeletons to the planetarium, there’s always something new to discover. Pro tip: The downtown location is way better than the Sugar Land one!
  • Buffalo Soldiers National Museum: Learn about African American military history through interactive exhibits and displays.
3. Meet the Animals: Zoos and Aquariums

Nothing lights up a kid’s face like seeing their favorite animals up close.

  • Houston Zoo: Home to over 6,000 animals with interactive exhibits and educational programs.
  • Downtown Aquarium: Could use a little refresh, but it still has cool marine life exhibits, touch tanks, and even a Ferris wheel.
  • Houston Interactive Aquarium & Animal Preserve: Hands-on exhibits, animal feedings, and learning experiences make this a great day out! Check them out here.
4. Libraries: A World of Imagination

Libraries aren’t just for books anymore—they offer storytime, crafts, and cozy play areas.

  • African American Library at Gregory School: A historic site with exhibits and archives celebrating African American culture.
  • Houston Public Library – Central Library: Tons of children’s programs, storytimes, and interactive events.
5. Indoor Play Centers: Rainy Day Bliss

Houston weather is unpredictable, but these spots are perfect for burning off energy indoors.

  • Jumping World: A fun trampoline park for all ages.
  • Urban Air: A locally owned indoor adventure park in Katy.
  • Big Air Trampoline Park - North Houston: From ninja courses to trampoline dodgeball, this place has it all. Check them out here.
6. Water Fun: Pools and Splash Pads

Cool off and make a splash at these kid-friendly spots!

  • Typhoon Texas Waterpark: A family favorite! The lazy river is a must.
  • Big Rivers Water Park: A hidden gem my family discovered during a pumpkin patch visit. Check it out here.
7. Farms and Petting Zoos: A Hands-On Experience

Get up close with farm animals and enjoy seasonal activities like berry picking and hayrides.

  • Dewberry Farm: Fun seasonal events like a pumpkin patch and corn maze.
  • Blessington Farms: A great place for animal encounters and picking fresh fruit.
  • Froberg Farm: The best spot for strawberry picking! My son and I are going in April—I can’t wait!
8. Beaches and Boardwalks: Sun, Sand, and Fun

A quick drive from Houston can get you to some fun waterfront spots.

  • Galveston Beach: Perfect for a beach day with the kids.
  • Sylvan Beach Park: Offers swimming, fishing, and a playground.
  • Kemah Boardwalk: Rides, games, and kid-friendly restaurants all in one spot! More details here.
9. Movie Theaters: Big-Screen Magic

Sometimes you just need to sit back and enjoy a good movie.

  • AMC Theater: Family-friendly screenings with comfy seating.
  • ShowBiz Cinemas: Movies, bowling, and an arcade—what more could you ask for? Check it out here.
10. Sports and Games: Active Fun

Bowling alleys, skating rinks, or mini-golf courses are perfect for active outings.

  • Dave and Busters: Features sporting area for adults and arcade games for a high-energy day out.
  • Main Event Entertainment: A one-stop destination for bowling, laser tag, arcade games, and more. Visit Main Event

11. Seasonal Events: Year-Round Fun

Seasonal key events everyone must try.

  • Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo: A beloved seasonal event offering rides, games, and kid-friendly activities during the spring. When i tell you, my kid and I had a blast! It was the best. Visit Houston Rodeo.
  • Urban Harvest Farmers Market: A weekly market offering fresh produce, live music, and kids’ activities. Visit Urban Harvest.

12. Black-Owned, Kid-Friendly Restaurants

Support Black-owned businesses while enjoying delicious, kid-approved meals!

  • Lucille’s: Southern comfort food with a welcoming atmosphere. Great for brunch with the little ones! Lucille’s
  • The Breakfast Klub: Famous for their chicken and waffles—perfect for a morning out with the family! The Breakfast Klub
  • Gazebo: A kid-friendly spot with a Louisiana vibe, perfect for relaxing and enjoying the outdoors. Gazebo
  • Stuff’d Wings: A creative twist on classic wings with fun flavors kids will love. Stuff’d Wings
No matter what you and your little ones are into, Houston has something fun for every family. I hope this list helps you plan some exciting adventures with your babies. Let me know which spots are your favorites or if there’s a hidden gem I should check out next!

Happy exploring! 🖤


February 26, 2025

How to Support Your Child’s Behavior at School

 

As we are midway through the school year and as a parent, I want to ensure that my child develops positive behavior habits that set him up for success. When he started receiving conduct marks for things like not listening the first time or being slightly disruptive, I knew it was important to understand what was causing these challenges and how to best support his growth. Here’s how to navigate this if you're ever in this situation as a parent trying to support your child effectively both in class and raising them up.

 

Step 1: Take a Breath First

The first thing I had to do was just take a breath. As parents, we juggle so much—not just in our personal lives but also with everything happening around the world. When something happens at school, especially when it feels unclear as to what is happening, my first reaction is frustration. But before reacting, I take a moment, breathe, and approach the situation with a clear mind.

 

Step 2: Helping Your Child at Home

After calming down and understanding the situation, the next step is to help your child navigate their behavior effectively.

  • Discuss Their Conduct Openly

    Sit down with your child and have a calm conversation about what happened. Ask open-ended questions to get their side of the story. This helps you understand if the marks are justified or if they feel unfairly treated. Instead of jumping to conclusions, use this as a learning moment.

  • Create a Behavior Tracking Chart

    Kids love visuals, and a behavior tracking system helps them take ownership of their actions. Log daily whether they listened the first time, followed directions, and stayed focused in class. Celebrate small wins and progress rather than just focusing on mistakes. To add fun to it, I like to add a sticker to reward great behavior.

  • Use Positive Reinforcement

    Instead of just focusing on punishment, reward good behavior. Praise them when they listen the first time, follow directions, or improve their focus. Small incentives, like extra playtime or a fun activity, can be strong motivators to keep them on track.

  • Practice Listening & Following Directions

    Reinforce listening skills at home by turning it into a game. Give simple directions and challenge them to follow them the first time. Over time, this helps build a habit of immediate response and attentiveness.

    If there isn’t any improvement, I usually take it to the next step below.

Step 3: Communicating with the School

  1. Request a Meeting with the Teacher

    Open communication with your child’s teacher is essential. This week, I scheduled a meeting with my son’s teacher to gain a clearer understanding of the situation. When preparing for a meeting like this, think about specific questions that relate to your child’s experiences. Ask about the school’s behavior policies, how conduct marks are assigned, and whether the challenges are unique to your child or part of a broader classroom issue.

    I approach these conversations as a collaborative effort to support my child, rather than just seeking answers.

  2. Ask for Documentation & School Policies

    If you don't have it already, request a copy of the behavior policy to ensure the school is following clear guidelines. This helps understand what’s expected and if there is details you need to know about in discipline.

  3. Ensure Fair Treatment

    If I suspect that my child is being unfairly disciplined compared to others, I would gather evidence by talking to other parents, requesting class observations, or discussing with school administrators.

     

Our kids behavior is an opportunity for growth, both for them and for you as their advocate. By reinforcing positive behaviors at home, you can help them develop the skills needed to succeed. Open dialogue with teachers, setting clear expectations, and tracking progress are key strategies in guiding them toward better conduct.

 

Would you like a free copy of the Behavior Tracking Chart to help guide your child’s progress? Click here to download it and start using it today!


December 05, 2023

5 Ways Mothers Can Embrace Winter Rest (Without the Holiday Chaos)

 

 

By Zak L. Grace | AuthenticallyZ

I used to get caught up in the holiday pressure—decorating, scheduling, overgiving—only to end up tired and disconnected. Now? I look at this winter season as what it truly is: a time for slowing down, resting, and reconnecting with Yah and my family.

 

If you’re feeling pulled in a million directions or unsure how to navigate this season without falling into the trap of stress and tradition, here are 5 grounded ways to shift your energy toward peace and purpose.

 

1. Honor Your Relationship with the Most High

 

Winter is a set-apart time—a time to pause, reflect, and listen.

This is when I draw closer to Yah, not through man-made holidays, but through intentional stillness. Read Scripture, pray, and create space to hear His voice.

You don’t need lights or festivities to feel connected—just truth, stillness, and the Word.

"Be still, and know that I am Elohim." – Psalm 46:10

 

2. Release the Pressure of Traditions

 

Let go of the pressure to perform.

Ask yourself: Does this tradition align with truth? Or is it something I’m doing out of habit or guilt?

When you let go of traditions rooted in stress, your soul can breathe.

"Be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind..." – Romans 12:2

3. Embrace Community, Not Overload

 

You don’t have to do everything alone—or everything at all.

Delegate tasks, say no when you need to, and embrace quiet moments with people who bring peace, not pressure.

This season isn’t about appearances—it’s about alignment.

 

4. Set Boundaries & Keep Them Sacred

 

Perfection is a trap. You’re not called to impress—you’re called to rest.

Set clear expectations for yourself and your family.

If something drains you more than it fills you, it’s okay to let it go. Protect your peace.

 

5. Make Room for Real Rest

 

The winter season naturally calls us to slow down—so honor that.

Rest isn’t laziness—it’s obedience to the rhythm Yah created.

Take naps, journal, take walks, do nothing—and don’t apologize for it.

When you rest, you show your children what it looks like to live aligned.

You don’t need to wait until January 1 to reset. You can reclaim your peace now.

This winter, let’s choose rest over rituals, peace over pressure, and truth over tradition.

 

Let it be a season of renewal, not burnout.

October 27, 2023

After School Activities for Kids


 

As a single mom, finding creative and educational after-school activities for your kids can sometimes feel like a juggling act and I know it can be tempting to give your toddler an electronic device. One thing I’ve learned in this journey of motherhood is, you want to keep them engaged, entertained, and learning, all while managing your household. But fear not, I'm here to help! I've put together a list of 15 fantastic after-school activities that you and your little ones can enjoy right in the comfort of your home.

1. Art and Craft Adventures: 

Gather some art supplies and watch your child's creativity blossom. Whether it's drawing, painting, or crafting, this activity is a wonderful way to encourage self-expression and imaginative thinking.

2. Reading Fun: 

Create a cozy reading nook with a comfy chair and a stack of books. Reading time not only fosters a love for literature but also provides a quiet and peaceful atmosphere for bonding.

3. Kitchen Helper: 

Invite your child to join you in the kitchen for some cooking or baking. It's an excellent opportunity to teach them valuable life skills while having loads of fun.

4. At Home Science Lab: 

Turn your home into a science lab with simple experiments. Spark their curiosity and fascination for the world around them.

5. Gardening Helper: 

Nurture an appreciation for nature by starting a mini-garden or becoming a plant mom. Whether it's a few potted plants or a small outdoor garden, kids can learn about responsibility and the wonders of growth.

6. Jam Session: 

Introduce your child to the world of music with lessons in playing instruments like the piano, guitar, or even singing. You might have a budding musician on your hands!

7. Dance Session: 

Set up a dance space and let your little one groove to their heart's content. Dancing promotes physical fitness and self-expression.

8. At-Home Exercise: 

Share the benefits of physical fitness through kid-friendly exercise routines. It's a fantastic way to keep them active and healthy.

9. Board Games: 

Stimulate their minds with classic board games, puzzles, or even chess. These games enhance critical thinking and problem-solving skills.

10.Bible Venture:  

Explore the bible in a new way by making the bible stories interactive. One of my favorite things is to open up the bible app that has several resources for children. This makes learning the basics stories both educational and enjoyable.

11. Language Lessons: 

Expand your child's horizons by introducing them to a new language. You can utilize apps and online resources to make the process engaging, interactive and even you picking up a new language. 

12. Nature Scavenger Hunts: Unleash their inner explorer with fun and educational scavenger hunts. Whether indoors or outdoors, these adventures offer a unique way to discover the beauty of the world.

13. Play Doh Session:

Create an area on the table or floor using plain white paper where your child can use their imagination to enhance their creative learning skills.

14. Photography Fun: 

Teach your little one the basics of photography using a simple camera or smartphone. You'll be amazed at the unique perspectives they capture.

15. Explore Lovevery: Have fun with physics by using Lovevery's 'The Play Guide' modular wooden ramp set. Encourage your child to make predictions about what will happen. This set has helped improve my son's building and critical thinking skills.You can find all of their play guides using the link here


Single moms, remember that spending quality time with your kids while engaging in these after-school activities can create lasting memories and foster their growth. These activities aren't just fun; they're opportunities to connect, educate, and inspire. So, whether it's art, science, or a culinary experiment, you've got this! Enjoy the journey of learning and growing together.

September 26, 2023

Time Management Tips for Single Moms

 

 

 

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September 09, 2023

Safety Tips for Single Moms: I Got Stalked as a Single Mom

 

 


Hey there, sis! I've got a gripping story to share with you today, and I can hardly believe it happened to me. It's a story of being stalked, a situation that had my heart racing like never before. But, let me tell you, I'm beyond grateful for the grace and mercy that kept me safe throughout this ordeal. In this video, I'll recount the chilling experience of being stalked and shed light on the safety precautions every single mom should consider. Trust me; this is a story you won't want to miss.

 


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August 21, 2023

Single Motherhood 101

As a single mother, I know that the world has a lot to say about single motherhood. But I believe that only a single mother can truly speak on this topic.

 

If you are a single mom, I want you to know that you are not alone. There is beauty in our journey, even when we can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. You got this.

 

In this video, I want to discuss where you can start as a single mother. I know it may be hard, and I know it may be difficult. But I want to create a safe space here to help you thrive.

 

 

Here are a few tips for single mothers:

  • Take care of yourself. This is easier said than done, but it's important to make time for yourself, even if it's just for a few minutes each day. Make sure to get enough sleep, eat healthy foods, and get some type of exercise in.
  • Set realistic goals. Don't try to do too much at once. Start by setting small, achievable goals for yourself. As you accomplish those goals, you can set bigger ones.
  • Don't be afraid to ask for help. There are many resources available to single mothers. If you need help with childcare, finances, or anything else, don't be afraid to ask for it.
  •  Find your support system. This could be family, friends, other single moms, or a support group. It's important to have people who understand what you're going through and who can offer support and encouragement. If you are looking for a space, join our waitlist today to the "You Got This Club" here

Being a single mother is not easy, but it is possible to thrive. By following these tips and surrounding yourself with a supportive community, you can create a happy and fulfilling life for yourself and your children.

Remember, you are not alone. There is a community of Black single mothers who are here to support you and help you thrive.

 

May 09, 2023

Best Ways to Celebrate a Single Mother



With Mother's Day approaching, it's important to start considering how to celebrate and honor all of the hard-working and dedicated mothers out there, especially those who are single mothers.

Single mothers are some of the strongest and most resilient people in the world, often juggling the responsibilities of parenthood, work, and personal life on their own.


 


To show your appreciation for a single mother in your life, there are numerous ways to celebrate and make her feel special. Here are a few ideas that you can consider:

  1. Give her a day off: 

Treat her to a spa day or plan a day out for her to relax and enjoy some time to herself.
  1. Plan a special activity: 

Take her out for a special activity or experience that she's been wanting to try, such as a concert, a cooking class, or a hot air balloon ride.
  1. Throw a brunch: 

Plan a surprise brunch for her with her friends and family, where she can relax and be pampered.
  1. Give her a gift: 

Give her a thoughtful and heartfelt gift, such as a piece of jewelry, a thoughtful book, or a heartfelt card.
  1. Help her with a task: 

Offer to help her with a task or project that she's been struggling with, such as cleaning or organizing her home or planning a special event.
  1. Show support: 

Show her your love and support by spending time with her and listening to her. Being a single mother can be hard and she might need a friend to lean on
  1. Show appreciation in small ways: 

You can bake her favorite cookies, leave a note of appreciation or just give her a hug and tell her how special she is.
  1. Show her support in her passion or hobbies. 

Buy her some supplies or help her with some work related to it. 

       9. Leave her alone and let her rest.

If you are a family member that wants to support a single mom. Take a day and keep the kids so she can do nothing but rest. At the end of the day, that's all we can use.


Remember that every mother is different and she might have her own preferences, it's always best to communicate with her and ask her what she would like to do. If you are a mother, I want to take this moment to say happy Mothers day and I am praying that this Mother day is filled with more love, joy, and relaxation.