How to Celebrate Juneteenth

Happy Juneteenth everyone!

Today marks a day that freed black people out of slavery. 

If you're unaware of this holiday, here’s a quick history lesson:

  • In 1776, slavery still existed when the Declarations of Independence was signed (4th of July).
  • June 19, 1865, was the date and year of the ending of slavery in the U.S. 
  • It took another 2 years for slaves to be freed after Abraham Lincoln signed the Emancipation Bill.
  • Juneteenth has not yet been declared as a federal holiday but is celebrated greatly in the black community.
  • Want to celebrate? This is a great opportunity to celebrate black culture.
  • And lastly, when you know better, you do better. I’m not celebrating the 4th of July ever. Thee End.

How to celebrate Juneteenth

How to Celebrate Juneteenth?

  • Support black-owned businesses
  • Learn the history
  • Check on your black friends
  • Black People Takeoff (even if your company doesn't celebrate this day)

If you were wondering what to wear on Juneteenth, here are 3 things you can wear.

1. Incorporate the Pan- African Flag colors in your wardrobe.

The colors are red, black, and green. If you're not sure what they represent, check out this article that speaks greatly of the history of the Pan- African Flag colors.


2. Create or support a black-owned business who sells Juneteenth shirts.

Juneteenth shirt

The shirt I'm wearing is from Crowned Creatives 

If you need inspiration, use Pinterest as a guide.

3. Keep it simple and have fun.

Don't overthink this, its a celebration, its the summer so grab your favorite shorts or skirt and have fun styling and celebrating the black culture. 

With everything going on, God has me on a style of looking into my roots and understanding my history as black women. With all the chaos, I am truly grateful for God of awakening my spirit man to know that there is so much more that needs to learn about myself and happy to be on this journey of discovery. Black Lives Matters, I suggest if you're black that God awakens your mind to know that you're better then your now. Oppression isn't just physical its mental as well.

Take care of yourself, understand your history, and I hope you're encouraged.


3 Activities for a 1 Year Old

I don't know about you guys but Lil man and I are tired of this apartment. Alright Rona, its time for you to get evicted lol. I will say as much as I would like to see what the future holds, I can't lie and say I'm loving seeing my baby boy grow right before my eyes. Like literally, he's growing by the minute. But while we're here I had to come up with a few ideas to entertain, develop, and teach my little one during this time. These are 3 activities I tried for my 1-year-old. All these items were brought from the Dollar Tree I might add.

1. Ice Painting

  • Location: Outdoors
  • Time frame: 35 minutes 
  • Items: ice cubes, bowl, brushes, paint, add a painting apron if you'll like.

This activity was fun for us both but please make sure you monitor them because if your baby is under 1, He will try and eat the paint.

2. Playdoh Magnets and Sticks

  • Location: In or outdoors
  • Time frame: 25 to 30 minutes max
  • Items: Playdoh of choice, ABC magnets, and popsicle sticks

Lil man liked this during his 1 hour TV time and it kept him occupied

3. Magnet Fun

  • Location: Inside
  • Time Frame: 1-hour max
  • Items: Cookie sheet and magnets

This activity I must say was my son's favorite until he begins to heat the ducks and tried clamping his finger.

All these activities help with your child's motor and developmental skills. They're simple to do, fun, and the thing is you have the majority of these items in your home. With my baby only being 19 months his short attention span only last for the time frame given, throughout the day I have incorporated a full curriculum for him

Please note: This is not a mandate, it's just a plan. Do not be hard on yourself or your kid. I know my baby is continually going through a growth spur. Some days he loves activities and other days he doesn't want to play. So test these out, let me know if you've tried them out and whats your favorite activity. More activity to come.

Mother's Day Post

Hey Sis! 

Happy Mother's Day! I would have never painted my life to be where it is today but I am here and I am grateful. Being a single mother was something I didn’t sign up for. I saw my life with a husband + child living as a family.  But my life was shifted in a positive way and I am in one of the most liberating moments I've ever been in my life. 

It is not an easy road but by the grace of God, I am doing what I need to and making it. Want to know how I've gotten by? See 3 tips that help motherhood go smoothly for me.

3 Motherhood Tips

1. Ask God for help every time. 

Throughout this journey, it has been a hard but a great process for me as a single mother asking God for guidance on areas where I’m unclear. Like when my baby cries, I don’t understand something, or when big decisions need to be made. It works every time because once you "trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding" (Proverbs 3:5). You allow God to come in and make things right.

2. Patience 

You have to have the patience for the little ones. One thing my therapist told me is that I have to understand perspective. See for me, I see things from a motherly protective perspective and my son sees things from a explore curious perspective. It blows my mind to understand that concept because I would literally police everything my son would do out of worry that he will hurt himself. Once I let that go and started worrying less, God came in and show me ways to really embark patience.

3. Take deep breaths

This is important on so many levels that I can have a whole post about this. Taking deep breaths can bring you back to a state of peace, calmness, and understanding. When things aren't going how you want, you to take a deep breath, go back to 2. patience, and then 1. ask God for help. Because when you "Seek first the kingdom of God. All these other things shall be added unto you" (Matthew 6:33).

I just want to say I love you guys, keep pushing, keep striving. From me to you, here is a virtual hug from one mother to another, and a flower from me to you. Happy Mother's Day.

I hope you're encouraged.

5 Stay at Home Ideas

Hey guys, God put it on my heart to share with you some ideas while you stay at home. Be encouraged and know that “No weapon formed against you shall prosper” Isaiah 54. I am praying for the families of all those affected by the virus and praying for a full recovery for each family. Be encouraged.

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Corona Virus Home Hacks

Hi guys, with all the craziness going on God but it on my heart to help others out there if you're having trouble finding goods for your home during this pandemic. Ive always been a DIY queen so these things are some things I do on the regular throughout life. I hope this helps someone out there. I am praying for the families of all those affected by the virus and praying for a full recovery for each family. Be encouraged. My Blog: https://www.authenticallyz.com My Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with Zak! Instagram: @authenicallyZ For Business with branding and product reviews ONLY, please contact me at: styleguruzak@gmail.com Disclaimer: This is not a sponsored video. 


Black History Month

This week my son and I are representing the end of the Black History with some of our past great leaders (thanks Target). With this month ending, I wanted to list a few of my favorite quotes of the names listed on my shirt.

One of my favorites is Harriet. I don’t know if you saw the movie but it’s a must see. It really showed the greatness Harriet did for the black community. The way I’m walking in Christ now is the same as Harriet did. She leaned on God to lead her every step of the way and she was able to free slaves and leave a legacy because she was obedient to the Holy Spirits voice. Just know that when you’re in this journey of life you will touch someone around you because they will literally see the goodness of Jesus on your life and its nothing you will have to say to them to force them to follow in your steps. Remember to “be the change, you want to see”.

Ida B. Bells

Maya Angelou

Fannie Lou Hamer

Harriet Tubman

Sojourner Truth


5 Ways to Love You First Then Love Others

How to Love You First Then Love Others 

Since were in the season of love (VDay) One thing I’ve learned during my journey of faith is that you can’t properly love others if you’re not loving (taking care) of yourself. You may love other but when you start to get aggravated because your doing to much you’re not properly loving them.

You may ask what do you mean Zak. Let’s go deeper.
Last year I came to this realization that I was not fully taking care of myself and haven’t done so ever in life until last year. I felt like I was on autopilot and things got touch I bend but didn’t break. I now speak, walk, and talk in my now I was delivered, I arrived, I became free all in the mist of chaos. 

If you’re giving others your all, doing it all, and feel empty by the time your done(2 Corinthians 9:7). Stop what you’re doing and see how to love you first then love others.

1. Make sure your cup is full in Christ

In order for you to pour into others you have to stay full in God (Psalm 16:5-11). That means having daily time with the Lord. Praying instead of worrying (Philippians 4:6-7), and talking to him through big down to the smallest decisions and details(Psalm 37:23).

2. Make sure you have self care moments and check ins

This means pampering not only your physical body but also pampering your inner beauty to stay the course (2 Corinthians 4:16). Get into your word, take weekly soaks, lotions you skin with oil, have self care Saturdays, get messages, write in your journal, do something that makes your heart smile for you (3 John 1:2).

3. Set boundaries with your love ones down to your children

This is one that really took time for me to grasp. Basically time is a precious thing, don’t waste it on unnecessary chatter, unresolved arguments, and wasting on people who don’t respect it. Learn how to use the word “no”. The word “no” may actually hurt someone’s feeling but you’re not harming them. Remember that: It may hurt to tell someone no but you’re not harming them.
If you are scared to tell someone no because you think they wont be involved with you, please reevaluate and redefine that relationship because that’s people pleasing, which is an another topic for another day.

4. Eat properly/ stay hydrated & rest

While in the mist of taking more care of me. God put it in my heart to make sure to eat properly and drink more water. A lot of weight comes from what we put in our temples (the body). What you sow is what you reap (2 Corinthians 9:6). That can be physical as well. You continue to sow McD, you will reap unhealthiness, fatigue, and tiredness. 

When it comes to hydration, your daily percentage of water intake should be 20%. Google it. This is something I’m still working on. But the holy spirit let me know when I just need to stop what I’m doing and go drink some water.

I use to say sleep is a distant from of mine. In 2020 we about to reevaluate our friendship to become besties. You can’t do what God calls you to do properly with out sleep. Now for me this means a good four hours or 5. I don’t sleep 8 hours straight unless I’m on a cruise, on certain vacay, or home alone. I don’t know who does but I’m working on this. (2 Corinthians 4:16)

5. Listen and Ask the Holy Spirit

Let me tell you, that something that you keep speaking of has a name and the more you acknowledge him, God will bless you. The holy spirit will protect you, save you, and never harm you in many situations. When it comes to all the steps above, the holy spirit is right there directing my path. I can literally just be at my desk and the holy spirit will let me know when I just need to stop what I’m doing and go drink some water. So listen to and ask him: what should I eat for breakfast, can I have a donut? Is today a salad day? What should I be drinking? Some may thing you’re insane but when you live to see 90 and there dead (straight up) then well see whose insane (Romans 8:14).

On that note: I hope these tips help someone. Happy valentine’s day to all the beauties and gents. I hope you guys are encouraged, have an awesome weekend.

Outfit details
Dress- boohoo
Earrings- Boohoo
Shoes- JustFab

The Secret to Press on Nails

Hi guys,

First thing first I AM NOT a professional! I have a love for press on nails. There fun, different and a glow up for your hands. Read tips below.

Cleaning: When you’re cleaning and washing dishes, use gloves.

Glue: I use both glues a lot of times for secure hold. This has not damaged my nails The glow I use is: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01C680N28/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_8OdnEbMTVNS96 also found at Dollar Tree


Cuticles: Oil your cuticles everything to avoid dryness

Where can you find nails?
You can find press ons at the hair store, all dollar stores (even dollar tree), Walmart, amazon, target, and wish.com. 

Like my accessories? http://www.zjewels.com/ 

My Blog: https://www.authenticallyz.com 

My Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-virtuous-women/id1488014020

Connect with Zak! Instagram: @authenicallyZ 

For Business with branding and product reviews ONLY, please contact me at: styleguruzak@gmail.com 

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How to Walk in your Purpose

Happy New Year to all my readers. 2019 was honestly one of the toughest years of my life. I honestly thought I wasn’t going to make it out see 2020 but GOD! I am here. So much has happened to me in my personal life that God had me to do a decade reflection on the last 10 years and I know going forward I am no longer in an old space. I am redeemed, restored, and ready to walk in my purpose. 

The last 10 years was years of lessons now I’m walking into years of blessings, prosperity, and growth. I am here for it and not a devil in hell will stop me.

Throughout the hardships, I went through in 2019. God was molding me into my purpose. He was turning beauty from ashes and making every crocket road straight. How did I go from broken women to a virtuous woman? The list below is a few ways you can figure out your purpose.

1. Be Still

For the last 3 years, God began speaking to me but I had so much noise in my life, I couldn’t hear him clearly until December 2018. I begin to question my life and my purpose with a 2-month-old in my arms because I had a sense of no direction. I was married but lost, had a great job but was lost, just had a baby and was lost. All I could think of is that I had nothing to show with a baby to take care of. On my death bed, God said to me, “Be still daughter and know I am God”. Psalms 46:10. So clear the clutter, set still, turn your phone off so that you can hear his voice.

2. Ask God

Ask God down to the very small details of how he wants you to serve on earth. Don’t just hop, skip, and jump into doing something you don’t like. We all have a purpose and it's in us. The only person I believe can help you is God.

3. Work on Personal Development

Instead of having so much focus on things and people around you. Put energy into you. You hold to key to your purpose inside you, not things or people. Remember you are “Fearfully and wonderfully made” Psalms 139:14. Clean out any skeletons that you might of swap under the rug, look in the mirror, and face you.

Personal development has a lot to do with spiritual, emotional, mental, and social skills. How are you going to have a purpose if you don’t like people? You need people whether you like it or not. So clean yourself up inside out.

4. What angers you?

The thing that anger you, holds your passion.

Example: You might dislike the way some women wear lace front wigs where you can tell its not authentic. So you create a lace front that’s secured for women. Boom, passion!

5. Your God-given Gift

Joyce Meyers said something in her book “How to hear from God.” I thought was simple but mind-blowing. She said A God-giving gift are the skills a person easily performs with no formal training. Isn’t that beautiful?

Example. I’ve always loved putting stuff together whether it was outfits, filing, crafting or sewing. So styling comes easy to me.

Good tip: Write out a list of things that come naturally to you and your gift is in the mist somewhere.

Once you think about all 5 ways. Pray about it, give it to God and allow Him to direct your path Proverbs 3:6. I noticed sometimes we try and work around these steps but take my word. It’ll save you a lot of time, money and energy. I’m walking into my purpose with my heels and head held high.

Outfit Details
Shirt: Amazon
Skirt: Ross Dress for Less
Shoes: Payless (RIP)
Earrings: Boohoo
Bracelet: Cititrend